Negotiator – 5 Crazy Ways To Prevent Being Burned By A Bully – Negotiation Tip of the Week

Dealing with a bully can be daunting, exhausting, and frustrating. It can leave you in a state of anxiety and devoured by stress. But that doesn’t have to be the case. Observe the following 5 crazy ways to prevent being burned by a bully when negotiating.

Three bully types:

  • Hard Core:

This bully type is someone who likely had psychological challenges as a child. He wants the respect and acknowledgment that he’s someone to reckon with.

  • Middle Core:

This individual is someone whose bullying is based on circumstances. While all bullies seek to maximize their efforts based on situational opportunities, this bully type will seek to escalate his situations if giving the chance to do so to become a hard core bully.

  • Soft Core:

A soft core bully is one that’s classified as a bully in training. He’s usually someone that’s enticed into doing things to prove himself to those from whom he seeks approval. He’s what’s known as a useful idiot in intelligence parlance.

It’s to your advantage to know the bully type that you’re dealing with.

Do a good deed:

Most bullies wear their emotions on their sleeves. They want others to like and appreciate them. Studies have indicated, when people are in a positive frame of mind, they’re more receptive to your thoughts and ideas.

If you commit a good deed for a bully before the negotiation, that could endear you to him, which may lead to him having a more positive perspective of you. If so, he may be lax when it comes to emploring bullying tactics against you during the negotiation. As in all cases when dealing with a bully, you should be mindful of how he might react as the result of you doing good deeds for him. Some bullies will interpret such actions as a green light to push you harder.

Group threat:

A group threat can be an assembly of others you amass to threaten the bully or his supporters. In either case, the group you assemble should be perceived as a formidable force that the bully or his followers will have to contend with if he attempts to bully you. It should also be a force that the bully perceives as being threatening to his standing and wellbeing.

Playing field:

Don’t play on the bully’s field. That means, when negotiating with a bully, do so on your own terms. Don’t allow him to dictate where and when the negotiation will occur. If he says, ‘x’, you say, ‘y’. Bullies like tough guys. Show him that’s who you are by the actions you engage in.

Scorched earth:

There will be times when you must stand up to a bully to show him how tough you are. Sometimes, you’ll have to take that to the extreme.

A scorched earth approach to negotiation is one way to display that extreme. It entails positioning yourself as someone that will ‘burn down everything’ if you don’t get your way. After positioning yourself as such, make him fight for every concession you grant him. You want him to feel like he’s really been in a battle during the negotiation. In times of perceived peace, make him wish he’d prepared for war.

Some of the above strategies will work with some bullies and some won’t. By knowing the type of bully you’re dealing with, you’ll have a better idea of how you can prevent him from burning you. Thus, by implementing the strategies above, you’ll enhance your negotiation position. You’ll also be better prepared to thwart the efforts of a bully… and everything will be right with the world.

Remember, you’re always negotiating!

Presentation Tip, One Tip to Get Their Attention!

Presentation Tip?

Get Their Attention

One Tip to Get Their Attention!

There is one presentation tip that can help you be a great presenter! Get the attention of your audience by doing this one thing.

Before I share this one thing, I want to remind you that to be a good speaker, you must be true to yourself! Be who YOU are during a presentation. Learn from others, but don’t try to be “like” anyone else. I encourage you to be a More Fabulous You!

If you are comfortable giving a speech, then your audience will be comfortable. There is NOTHING worse than a presenter who is so nervous they find it difficult to get the words out, or they may be fidgeting, or fighting with their technology. When this happens, the audience can feel it, and they want out as much as the presenter!

Learning presentation strategies should help you become more comfortable, not be more stressed out.

Presentation Tip – Increase Audience Participation

The one thing that you can do to increase participation – have GIVEAWAYS! Yes, give your audience something in return for answering a question. Everybody wants something for free. I have always been amazed at the concept, but it does work!

Everyone Likes Giveaways

Men, women and even the wealthy enjoy giveaways. I was attending a fundraiser with high dollar donors, and they wanted the giveaways too! I was surprised because they could have bought what was being given away. Do NOT underestimate the power that a giveaway can have!

Examples of Small, Fun Giveaways

A giveaway does not have to be high dollar. Below are a few suggestions for smaller giveaways. The more expensive a giveaway, the more specialized your audience will be. The small giveaways are good to keep attention while keeping it economical for the presenter or speaker.

  • Gum – Double Bubble works well for this – younger audiences love candy giveaways!
  • Hard Candy
  • Suckers – these are normally a huge hit
  • Fun pens or pencils
  • Notepads
  • Coloring Books for Adults
  • Books – Related to the topic or written by the speaker
  • Admission Ticket or Coupon – local event that requires a ticket
  • Gift Card – small amounts work well too!

Advantages of Giveaways

The next time you are preparing for a presentation, consider the power that a giveaway can have for your success. Several advantages are listed below.

  1. Attention Grabbing – Keeps the audience attention
  2. Fun – Provides fun during the presentation – everyone enjoys “winning.”
  3. Interaction – Gets the audience interacting with the content (HUGE)
  4. Highlights the Audience – Doesn’t keep the spotlight on the speaker
  5. Longevity – After the presentation, the audience will talk about the giveaways

In conclusion, when preparing for a presentation, consider giveaways as a great way to increase interaction. Your success as a presenter can be enhanced by introducing giveaways!

Christmas Presents Need Not Be the Same Traditional Ones

Christmas is approaching, and with it the crowds at shopping malls is getting bigger and bigger. Everyone is busy buying Christmas gifts according to his requirements and of course his budget. Christmas is all about making merry and this giving of Christmas presents only adds to happiness and cheers all around. If you are bored with buying toys for your kids and dresses for your lovely wife as Christmas gifts every year, why not try out something new this year. There are a lot of unusual sporting activities that have become very popular over the last few years and people are buying vouchers to present them to their dear ones to participate in these activities and have a great festival. If you are not aware of them, here are some of them which make perfect Christmas presents.


Listening to the word buggies, the first thing that comes to mind is the buggies for little toddlers that people use for their movement from one place to another. But have you heard about dune buggies that are motorized vehicles specially created to provide a fun filled ride over terrains such as deserts and beaches? No? Then you are missing on some wild excitement and a lot of fun. These buggies have wide tires and an open chassis that is powered by a modified engine. As it is, people have a very carefree attitude when enjoying at a beach, and these buggies add to all the excitement and the fun as people can sit and have a wonderful ride along the beach.

Today there are specially made tracks for these buggies and events are organized on a commercial basis where people can come along with their families and have a fun filled outing driving these buggies. If you think this idea will excite the kids and your wife, you can buy gift vouchers for them to have a memorable Christmas this year.

Tuff Trucks

If you are adventurous and have daredevil kids to boot, why not go for Tuff trucks this Christmas to have all the thrill and excitement? Tuff Trucks are comic looking vehicle with a small body and extra large tires. But they are so made to overcome all the hurdles placed in their way and this is the concept that has given rise to many sporting events specially organized for people who wish to have a lot of thrill and excitement driving these crazy looking vehicles.

The sport involves crossing small boulders in the beginning and soon the obstructions become larger and scarier. But this is what Tuff Truck driving is all about. It takes a little practice to understand the controls but as soon as you learn how to overcome a rock or a boulder without falling over, driving tuff trucks becomes a lot of fun. To make the activity more exciting, events involving tuff trucks are being organized in the evenings under lights.

These are activities that make for very exciting Christmas gifts and ensure a fun filled and a memorable festival.